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Everyone is an expert on Nigeria now

atane:

I’ve been groaning a lot by what I’ve been reading in articles and on social media about Nigeria, Boko Haram and the kidnapped girls. I’d say half of what I’m reading is nonsense. Yes, literally half of it is nonsense. Everyone is an expert on Nigeria now, so much so that they are actually…


britteryikes:

the drool <3
oh baby!

Mashallah

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tashabilities:

fucknofetishization:

Asian American and Asian women stereotypes

If you’re willing to sit through a 15 minute video, take some time to see this. This video explains where the stereotypes and fetishization of Asian women came from.

Yoko Ono will be 81 years old tomorrow (born February 18, 1933)

And I think in her day, they hit her with ALL these damn stereotypes, but mostly the dragon lady one.

I don’t currently have any Asian women in my life, so she was the first person I thought of who suffered real world ramifications behind this bullshit.

Please keep the Central African Republic in your prayers.

theurbanchica:

//the hair. the pink lips. <3

http://blackfashion.tumblr.com/post/77038595264/thefemaletyrant-princessnijireiki

thefemaletyrant:

princessnijireiki:

latinagabi:

saturnsorbit:

Let’s not forget to acknowledge Alexandre Dumas this Black History Month

The writer of two of the most well known stories worldwide, The Three Musketeers and The Count of Monte Cristo was a black man.

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kanyebreast:

christopher1001:

earthandanimals:

onlylolgifs:

Penguins Grieving

I’m crying.

This is like the saddest shit I’ve seen on tumblr since I been here

I legit have tears.

When [an abusive man] tells me that he became abusive because he lost control of himself, I ask him why he didn’t do something even worse. For example, I might say, “You called her a fucking whore, you grabbed the phone out of her hand and whipped it across the room, and then you gave her a shove and she fell down. There she was at your feet where it would have been easy to kick her in the head. Now, you have just finished telling me that you were ‘totally out of control’ at that time, but you didn’t kick her. What stopped you?” And the client can always give me a reason. Here are some common explanations:

"I wouldn’t want to cause her a serious injury."
“I realized one of the children was watching.”
“I was afraid someone would call the police.”
“I could kill her if I did that.”
“The fight was getting loud, and I was afraid the neighbors would hear.”

And the most frequent response of all:

"Jesus, I wouldn’t do that. I would never do something like that to her.”

The response that I almost never heard — I remember hearing it twice in the fifteen years — was: “I don’t know.”

These ready answers strip the cover off of my clients’ loss of control excuse. While a man is on an abusive rampage, verbally or physically, his mind maintains awareness of a number of questions: “Am I doing something that other people could find out about, so it could make me look bad? Am I doing anything that could get me in legal trouble? Could I get hurt myself? Am I doing anything that I myself consider too cruel, gross, or violent?”

A critical insight seeped into me from working with my first few dozen clients: An abuser almost never does anything that he himself considers morally unacceptable. He may hide what he does because he thinks other people would disagree with it, but he feels justified inside. I can’t remember a client ever having said to me: “There’s no way I can defend what I did. It was just totally wrong.” He invariably has a reason that he considers good enough. In short, an abuser’s core problem is that he has a distorted sense of right and wrong.

I sometimes ask my clients the following question: “How many of you have ever felt angry enough at youer mother to get the urge to call her a bitch?” Typically half or more of the group members raise their hands. Then I ask, “How many of you have ever acted on that urge?” All the hands fly down, and the men cast appalled gazes on me, as if I had just asked whether they sell drugs outside elementary schools. So then I ask, “Well, why haven’t you?” The same answer shoots out from the men each time I do this exercise: “But you can’t treat your mother like that, no matter how angry you are! You just don’t do that!”

The unspoken remainder of this statement, which we can fill in for my clients, is: “But you can treat your wife or girlfriend like that, as long as you have a good enough reason. That’s different.” In other words, the abuser’s problem lies above all in his belief that controlling or abusing his female partner is justifiable….


Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men (via seebster)

I don’t think I could handle reading this book.

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veggiebaker:

therunscape:

Heart attacks symptoms are different for women. I recently learned this. 

Everyone should know these things.